Stones On Your Path

How often have you sat down to a job, accomplished the task to the best of your abilities, and discovered later that what you had done was not up to snuff.  When you found out, did you get defensive?  Did you blame a supervisor or co-worker for your mistake?  Did you heap blame on yourself?  Did you re-live the error over and over, spoiling every pleasant moment with the thought of your mistake?  Did it effect your sleep and make you cranky enough to effect your relationships?

No matter how you handled the uncomfortable discovery, what you are experiencing is a classic example of a pattern of thought that got stuck in your energy body. Having reactions like this not only effect your day to day life, they effect your health.  They block the pathways of energy that continually flow through your system that renew and invigorate you.  Patterns of thought create both dis-ease and disease.

How do we eleminate them? The first step is to take a clear look at them.

Mistakes make us feel uncomfortable.  Don't run away from the feeling.  Feel it!  Be with it.  Comfort and hold it as you would a child.  Discover its secret longing and the reason for its presence in your life.  Is this pattern of thought there because you use actions to get love and approval?  That's the most common reason for the upset.  "I made a mistake.  I'm not perfect.  I will not be loved."

When you see the outcome of the pattern ("I am not loveable") you can see that it's taken you to right to the big lie: you have to be perfect to be loved. Already, you know that that is not true!  Universal love is unconditional.  Even human love doesn't depend upon perfection.  Anyone raising children knows that!

Feel better?

As you become more practiced in untangling the reasons why these patterns of thought are present in your energy, you feel more at peace and more whole. The result is that you are no longer thrown by these experiences because you are less likely to become ensnared in patterned thinking. You bounce back more quickly.

You won't eleminate making mistakes or experiencing criticism, because mistakes and criticism have value.    They are the "caution" signs on the path towards your goal.  They provide you with the navigating tools that make your life more effective and fruitful. Used wisely, they can help you become the person you want to be.

The trick to negotiating mistakes so that you can using them effectively, distance yourself from them, and investigate and eleminate your patterns of thought, is to not take them so seriously.  See them as merely rocks on your path.  They may make you stumble, but they rarely break your legs.  They are there to encourage you to be a little more attentive to where you're placing your feet. 

That rock you stumble on is truly a gold nugget helping you to be more present in your life. That's the only "perfect" way to be you:  here, now, and beautifully alive!

Love, Kristine